“Wait, I gotta put on my eyebrows!”
She’d plop down on a chair… or on the ground… or on a desk, whip open her large purse, a compact mirror, and the almighty liner pencil. Within minutes she achieved brows on fleek standing.
This was frequent for my pal, Monique. Always in a rush, late to an occasion the place was internet hosting, serving to or or supporting. And she arrived with a ginormous smile, laughter, hugs, and an arsenal of tales to share about the latest journey or drama she’d encountered. Her full, black “bear hair” as she referred to as it, fluffy and curly, appearing as her antennae to draw consideration. But actually, it was her fiery and joyful spirit that drew individuals her approach.
It’s so heartbreaking to put in writing this put up. Mo handed away final week on February 1st. Even although we knew what was to return, I’m nonetheless in disbelief. The day she handed, I might nonetheless really feel her power, however not in a approach that she was gone, however as if she was nonetheless alive, able to reply my telephone name or textual content. I truly thought of perhaps it wasn’t true. It took me hours to actually course of. Later that night time I even used a ghost looking app on every thing she’d gifted me simply to see if I might join along with her. She handed in her sleep and I nervous if she knew she had handed or if she was within the inbetween. In some moments I couldn’t catch my breath on the thought.
I knew I wasn’t alone in my grief. Pictures and reminiscences are all I had left. The unhappiness hit exhausting. My husband lit a hearth in our bbq pit exterior again and we sat and shared tales about Mo.
I suppose you may name it the seven phases of grief, however all of us went by way of it. I’m on the level now the place I’m trying on the larger image and specializing in honoring her life and legacy. The tears nonetheless come each day on so many ranges.
Mo wasn’t secretive about her battles. This was a girl who LOVED to LOVE. Sometimes on the expense of her personal self-love. We all have a journey, a mission and function in life and Mo lived hers to the fullest. She was so beloved by our Phoenix arts neighborhood. Known for connecting artists with galleries and eating places, she helped so many creatives discover a house for his or her work.
Mochacha was additionally a member of The Phoenix Fridas. She and her bestie, Anna, went beneath the title Con/Safos and once I met them, they made jewellery, shrines, jewellery bins and extra to promote on the lowrider reveals. When she wasn’t doing that, she organized live shows and artwork occasions.
I had many, many lengthy conversations with Mo through the years. She endured so many obstacles in her life, all conditions she silently soaked up with out displaying her weak point. When it got here to taking good care of herself or serving others, she all the time went for the latter. She confirmed a lot love for her household, her mother, dad, sister, cousins, niece and nephew, they meant every thing to her. I can’t even think about the loss they’re enduring.
I do know Mo doesn’t need us to be unhappy, she needs us to recollect her. She knew for months what was to return and spent these days connecting with individuals to allow them to know she beloved them. At 6 a.m. on my birthday, my telephone rang and it was Mo. “HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KATHYYY!!!”
She made me snigger and we chatted about our Sagittarius power! Two weeks earlier than she handed she referred to as me and requested to listen to some good chisme to take her thoughts off her ache. I served it one of the best I might and we laughed hysterically about how sizzling and steamy chisme might truly be therapeutic for the soul! She ended the decision like she did each different time, “Bye, Kathy, I love you!”
What a present for her (and us) to have the ability to try this – attain out to say goodbye. Now that she is gone, I’m much more grateful.
Let’s take a digital stroll by way of Mo’s highlights! Check out this YouTube video where we made Jolly Rancher roses, I all the time informed her she was YouTube gold! “If you can’t do the time, don’t do the crime!” LOL!
This was a drag present occasion The Phoenix Fridas hosted at an area membership, Mo served because the hostess!
Saturday was the primary day I wakened and didn’t take into consideration Mo. I went into the store to work and scrolled by way of my digicam roll for an artwork image to put up on my Instagram. Then a buyer got here in and I set down my telephone. An hour later I picked it as much as proceed trying to find a pic – solely to see this image of Mo!
It’s like she was saying to me “HEY. YOU DIDN’T THINK ABOUT ME YET TODAY! HERE I AM!”
HAHAHA! I beloved it and bought the signal for positive!
Now I’m gonna share a few of the life classes Mo and I used to speak about. These are issues we labored on to make our lives brighter. I do know she would need to encourage others and I really feel I’ve her permission to share right here with all of you. We’re all on this collectively! I might particularly elaborate on every of them, however I’m not fairly emotionally prepared for that. Take these in and apply them to your individual life, Mo would need that!
Have the power and confidence to depart any scenario that doesn’t provide help to reside your greatest life or be one of the best individual you are supposed to be.
Push your self to step out of your consolation zone. Go on that journey. Quit that job. Make that artwork and present it to the world!
Love your self, flaws and all.
Set boundaries for your self with regards to what you give and absorb relationships.
Honor your ancestors and elders.
Ask for assist. We’re all struggling in our personal approach, we’re all right here to assist each other!
Celebrate being alive and snigger on a regular basis! Mo made an effort to do all form of issues – open an artwork gallery, turn out to be a DJ and radio host, train artwork workshops and reside portray, she even realized be a espresso barista.
Be fearless with regards to believing in your self and what you might be able to.
Have grace. No one is ideal. I’ll say it once more for these within the again – No one is ideal! Release these expectations of perfection for ourselves and others.
Know in each fiber of your being that you’re beloved by so many and deserve a fruitful life. You will not be alone.
Thank you, thanks, thanks Mo, on your friendship and assist and most of all unconditional love. Even although you handed from this earth, I can really feel the heat of your mild so robust and I’ll keep in mind you all the time as some of the loving, partaking, and charismatic individuals I ever knew.
Rest in energy, amiga.
P.S. I simply realized at present is my dad’s birthday!
Love & mild,